Helping you deal with loss

Grief is a reaction not only to death – when we lose a relationship, but too any loss.  As we travel through life, through the life span, we experience many changes: primary school to high school, high school to work or to university, university to work, being single to marriage or having an intimate partner, having a partner to separation, divorce or widowhood, children leaving home, work to retirement or losing a job. When we experience change, we experience loss and we experience grief.

Throughout life, many of us will experience “Disenfranchised Grief” – a loss that is not recognised or acknowledged by others, not socially sanctioned – death of an ex-spouse, an estranged parent, a loved one going to prison, a sibling we never knew.

While there is much literature and many publications on the different stages of grief, I would suggest that grief is different for each person.  There are no “one-size fits all” counselling techniques.

Recovery from grief and healing are not matters of “moving on” or “getting over it”. If we have lost somebody or something we truly loved, we may not want to get over it.  But we do need to learn to live again without whoever or whatever we loved, no longer being tangible physically.  Part of grieving is acknowledging that life will not be the same again, it will be different.

In offering counselling support, I will listen to and respect your story, help you to be in touch with and accept your emotions and find meaning in your loss.